This might seem a little late, but after reading Abadd and Gehn’s argument…
Go Abadd go!!
Ok, lets not get crazy now, we have enough crazy guys around here…
To get back on topic, I’ve got to agree with Orta with the whole going to talk to Tika’s parents thing. If that doesn’t work, I’m going to assume you guys have something like childline or conections over there, which you can use to talk to experienced councellers.
[quote=“Abadd”]Sorry for all the off-topic 
But, the ability to improve her life rests in her own hands. It’s up to her friends to help her realize this. She needs to speak with someone who can help keep her focused, help her deal with the pain, and help her keep perspective. It is too difficult a task to handle on one’s own for most people, and it is too much of a burden for any one friend to carry.
My previous advice still stands. She needs to talk with a counselor or a therapist, and her friends need to guide her in that direction.[/quote]
I’ve tried to steer her towards a counselor. She said she didn’t want to go alone. I said I would go with her. She said she’d think about it. I talked to her again about it and she just looked at me, got all bitchy, and said, “I don’t want to talk to them because I can’t trust them!”
So, unless you can tell me how to persuade her…
That’s a natural reaction. Again, like I mentioned before, when someone doesn’t trust their parents, it becomes difficult to trust any authority figure.
You can try several things. You’ve already offered to go with her (which was a great move, btw), so that’s covered. You can see if you can convince her to go “just once,” and see what it’s like. The hard part is going the first time. But just tell her to relax and give it a try. If she doesn’t like it, she can try something/someone else.
Another thing to try is to see if she is willing to try talking to them on the phone first. There’s less investment on her part, less risk. Of course, you would have to talk to the therapist first, tell her the situation, and ask if that’s okay.
One other thing you can try is to get her to sit down and explain to you her fears about going to see a therapist? What about them doesn’t she trust? What does she have to lose by talking to them? This is probably the most difficult option, though, because if you push too hard, then she might start to see you as siding with “them.”
Okay. Can do, Abadd.
(She better not think I am siding with “them” because I’m about to pull my hair out of my head trying to help her!)
Not meaning to sound like an ass here but,
I think its good she has had some bad shit to put up with
in her life, make sure she knows its like a test…
it will eather make you or break you,
I mean as long as she gets thought it … she will probably turn out
one of the best people to know in the world…
people that go though shit in there lives will have a better view on the world
and will see things how they are…and not in some happy little dream world
like alot of people.
She is bound to feel like fcuk the world…
she will always think that trust me i know
but she will also know how important it is to be nice to people
as she would know the feeling that being nasty bring to people from first hand experince.
But then again it can break you… You would be amazed how many times
ive woken up eather wanting to die or almost crying from anger,
but the best thing about rockbottem is it cant get any worse.
But tell her to keep her head up…
I know that loads of people on this forum care about her
and well Ive never even spoken to this girl but I care how she is doin
Pluss i think i know how she is feeling and well its not a good one so
give her a hug Orta ;p hugs are great ;p
Wow, abadd you act professional…
Professional?
Damn… I must be slipping. 
Maybe it’s because he’s in his mid-20s and kind of is a professional at a lot of things.
I knew that, obvisously he has the calibar to help people with such things…
Good news with Tika. This Wednesday, I’m dragging her to a counselor… And she’s coming voluntarily. claps
Whether she likes it or not.
No. Actually she suggested that she go after she thought about it. She’s just dragging me and two other members of our little group for emotional support.
That’s great news. Tell her we’re all cheering her on 
Yep! Prayers are with her, and pie too!
I’m happy for her. And another good thing: she’s getting an honor award from the school so she’s really cheered up about that. It’s made her so much better!
THANK YOU EDUCATIONAL SYSTEM!
o.O Yes, it is a rewarding system…